Getting back in the dating scene after divorce
Though they know the reality of the situation in their head, they deny it in their actions by keeping ties to their ex in unhealthy ways. If you have children, managing relations with your ex will be a challenge for a while. Most women try to desperately deny the truth as long as they can. Being divorced means you both have to accept the natural consequence of divorce: getting him out of your life as much as possible.Divorce and Narcissism are a difficult combination. In times of danger the best thing to do is prepare. I wrote in my book about divorce: The first thing my husband’s attorney asked him was “Shall I hit her over the head with a 2×4? Divorce is never good – but take a narcissist/verbal/emotional abuser and his lawyer and you have a situation that can turn quickly into an explosive battle. The legal system can be a very effective battering tool when divorce and narcissism are combined. One woman asked if people listened about the importance of planning. She said, “Tell them I am the poster child for not planning and it isn’t good.” Before You Begin To Divorce A Narcissist This is a dangerous time. But men are easy prey for emptying their bank account by greedy lawyers.
The lies will be bolder and he may manipulate with more intensity. Continued use of the legal system may now be available to him.In his mind, you are worthless, you deserve nothing. Get a support group of therapists, friends, family members.Make sure therapists understand narcissism and can testify in your behalf in court. Ask who the “pit bull” lawyers are so you can interview them. Try and find one that gives you some breathing space in terms of how they charge. Get your ducks in order and do all you can and be prepared before you announce you want a divorce.But the truth is, learning the lessons involved in getting over divorce can be the most powerful lessons you ever learn.So when you ask yourself, “How do I get over a divorce?